Comments for Slightly Salty: Navigating the Navy One Day At A Time http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com Navy life, military spouse, individual augmentee (IA) Wed, 09 Jul 2008 15:05:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU Comment on Reaching out to other Navy IA spouses by slightlysaltyspouse http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/07/08/reaching-out-to-other-navy-ia-spouses/#comment-586 slightlysaltyspouse Tue, 08 Jul 2008 19:22:35 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=244#comment-586 A lot of red wine and dark chocolate. Just kidding. Honestly, now that he's been home for 3 months, it's hard to believe that he was gone for a year and that we did get through it. I had a few things going in my favor: a) Obi-Wan was at a desk job and only left the wire twice so I wasn't as worried about his safety, although there were moments; b) I had 2 good friends whose husbands were also deployed as IAs right in my area so instant support from them; c) Obi-Wan taught me a lot about keeping a positive attitude and not worrying unless there was something to worry about. That worked most of the time but not all of the time. Your situation is definitely different in some respects and I'm not sure that I'd have handled things as well if Obi-Wan was doing daily convoys. I probably wouldn't sleep or eat either. I'm here to listen/vent/scream, etc. if you need it. :) A lot of red wine and dark chocolate. Just kidding.

Honestly, now that he’s been home for 3 months, it’s hard to believe that he was gone for a year and that we did get through it.

I had a few things going in my favor: a) Obi-Wan was at a desk job and only left the wire twice so I wasn’t as worried about his safety, although there were moments; b) I had 2 good friends whose husbands were also deployed as IAs right in my area so instant support from them; c) Obi-Wan taught me a lot about keeping a positive attitude and not worrying unless there was something to worry about. That worked most of the time but not all of the time.

Your situation is definitely different in some respects and I’m not sure that I’d have handled things as well if Obi-Wan was doing daily convoys. I probably wouldn’t sleep or eat either.

I’m here to listen/vent/scream, etc. if you need it. :)

]]> Comment on Reaching out to other Navy IA spouses by Anchored Away http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/07/08/reaching-out-to-other-navy-ia-spouses/#comment-585 Anchored Away Tue, 08 Jul 2008 19:12:29 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=244#comment-585 Thanks for the link to that article. I'm fascinated by the implied criticism of the family at home (be calm and stable, pretend to be calm and stable, or else!!!) while not really providing any honest-to-goodness support for those families so we can stay calm and stable. Iffy communication, a hotline and e-mail helpdesk for "support," and loads of uncertainty about our sailors taking on army jobs... yeah, that's a certain recipe for calm and stability! /snark How exactly did you make it through this??? Thanks for the link to that article. I’m fascinated by the implied criticism of the family at home (be calm and stable, pretend to be calm and stable, or else!!!) while not really providing any honest-to-goodness support for those families so we can stay calm and stable. Iffy communication, a hotline and e-mail helpdesk for “support,” and loads of uncertainty about our sailors taking on army jobs… yeah, that’s a certain recipe for calm and stability! /snark

How exactly did you make it through this???

]]> Comment on An almost bunny incident by oh2btigger http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/06/10/an-almost-bunny-incident/#comment-584 oh2btigger Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:19:42 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=221#comment-584 Awww, poor little thing! I'm glad you were able to save him! Awww, poor little thing! I’m glad you were able to save him!

]]> Comment on Needing space … by Ann M. http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/07/03/needing-space/#comment-583 Ann M. Sun, 06 Jul 2008 00:01:56 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=237#comment-583 I think doing your own thing every once in awhile (like how my DH has a poker night, although by the time he leaves for that, I'm in bed anyways) is totally understandable. But space? For what? The Navy gives us more than enough "space" from our marriage, so when we're fortunate enough to be in the same place...we'd rather take advantage of that and actually be a married couple. I think doing your own thing every once in awhile (like how my DH has a poker night, although by the time he leaves for that, I’m in bed anyways) is totally understandable. But space? For what? The Navy gives us more than enough “space” from our marriage, so when we’re fortunate enough to be in the same place…we’d rather take advantage of that and actually be a married couple.

]]> Comment on Needing space … by oh2btigger http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/07/03/needing-space/#comment-582 oh2btigger Sat, 05 Jul 2008 09:16:22 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=237#comment-582 Since I couldn't articulate my thoughts on this, I read this entry to my husband. His thoughts are this: It really depends on the circumstances. To take a break for a lengthy period of time for a married couple isn't appropriate, but to take a weekend or something like that to clear your head isn't always a bad thing. Often times what's going on with a person really doesn't have anything to do with the marriage. As for me, I get WAY too many phone calls saying that the spouses don't get enough time with their husbands, so if they need space, I suggest they come to our unit where they'll get PLENTY of it! Hope you had a great 4th! Since I couldn’t articulate my thoughts on this, I read this entry to my husband. His thoughts are this: It really depends on the circumstances. To take a break for a lengthy period of time for a married couple isn’t appropriate, but to take a weekend or something like that to clear your head isn’t always a bad thing. Often times what’s going on with a person really doesn’t have anything to do with the marriage.

As for me, I get WAY too many phone calls saying that the spouses don’t get enough time with their husbands, so if they need space, I suggest they come to our unit where they’ll get PLENTY of it!

Hope you had a great 4th!

]]> Comment on Needing space … by navycs http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/07/03/needing-space/#comment-581 navycs Fri, 04 Jul 2008 17:47:32 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=237#comment-581 Yea, big difference between needing space and S P A C E - I suggest they seek counseling if they need S P A C E... Happy 4th! Grilling the baby backs as we speak!!! Yea, big difference between needing space and S P A C E - I suggest they seek counseling if they need S P A C E…

Happy 4th! Grilling the baby backs as we speak!!!

]]> Comment on Needing space … by discreetlynaughty http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/07/03/needing-space/#comment-580 discreetlynaughty Fri, 04 Jul 2008 03:24:29 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=237#comment-580 You are absolutely right! If you really LOVE someone, you are always happy to be with that person and there's no way you would need space. But of course there's more to it. You can only think that you are blessed cause Obi-Wan is truly your GOD's GIFT! Happy 4th too! You are absolutely right! If you really LOVE someone, you are always happy to be with that person and there’s no way you would need space. But of course there’s more to it. You can only think that you are blessed cause Obi-Wan is truly your GOD’s GIFT!
Happy 4th too!

]]> Comment on A Better Person by Teresa Frazier http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/06/25/a-better-person/#comment-579 Teresa Frazier Sat, 28 Jun 2008 03:10:41 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=233#comment-579 Hi Slightly Salty, I just saw ur page yesterday and I really like it coz I could relate in all the blogs, u just voiced out all my thouhgts and emotions just exactly I could do. Im very grateful to you and I really cant help it but let you know. Im on a struggle right now, in fact a very intense emotional struggle, my fiancee who is an army is gone for a month now and have not heard anything from him. I am worried and all the negative emotions and all that. But after reading ur some of ur blogs, I felt relieve somehow. Thank u and Im happy for u Hi Slightly Salty, I just saw ur page yesterday and I really like it coz I could relate in all the blogs, u just voiced out all my thouhgts and emotions just exactly I could do. Im very grateful to you and I really cant help it but let you know. Im on a struggle right now, in fact a very intense emotional struggle, my fiancee who is an army is gone for a month now and have not heard anything from him. I am worried and all the negative emotions and all that. But after reading ur some of ur blogs, I felt relieve somehow. Thank u and Im happy for u

]]> Comment on A Better Person by oh2btigger http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/06/25/a-better-person/#comment-578 oh2btigger Thu, 26 Jun 2008 20:05:01 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=233#comment-578 My husband and I were married all of a year when he deployed for the 3rd time. I knew going into my marriage knowing that there were going to be multiple deployments coming up. I'm not excited about the fact that he's probably going to be deploying again next year. I haven't really had a husband. The Army owns him! Ugh! I'm 99% sure that my husband wouldn't have married me if he thought I couldn't handle the long separations. A lot of my friends and I often look at you Navy wives and wonder how you do it---6 months on--6 months off! We only have to worry about it a year at a time! A year is nothing--15 months on the other hand... My husband and I were married all of a year when he deployed for the 3rd time. I knew going into my marriage knowing that there were going to be multiple deployments coming up.

I’m not excited about the fact that he’s probably going to be deploying again next year. I haven’t really had a husband. The Army owns him! Ugh!

I’m 99% sure that my husband wouldn’t have married me if he thought I couldn’t handle the long separations.

A lot of my friends and I often look at you Navy wives and wonder how you do it—6 months on–6 months off! We only have to worry about it a year at a time! A year is nothing–15 months on the other hand…

]]> Comment on A Better Person by Ann M. http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/2008/06/25/a-better-person/#comment-577 Ann M. Wed, 25 Jun 2008 18:03:10 +0000 http://slightlysalty.wordpress.com/?p=233#comment-577 This post really made me smile. It's great that the two of you had this conversation and that you told him how you feel about all of this, and him :) This post really made me smile. It’s great that the two of you had this conversation and that you told him how you feel about all of this, and him :)

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